Independent Sales Force Actively Gives Back

07-14-2017 8:50 AM

With the growing numbers of The Mary Kay Foundation℠ Ambassadors and supporters, we see an outpouring of inspiring, heartfelt support for The Foundation’s mission. Today’ we’re highlighting the efforts of Mary Kay Independent National Sales Director Jill Moore, a domestic violence survivor, and the Moore National Area.

Editor’s note: Come hear Jill Moore speak during Diamond Seminar in The Mary Kay Foundation℠ Expo Pod on July 20, 2017, at 1:00 p.m.

“Mary Kay Ash taught us to give back and pay it forward,” begins Mary Kay Independent National Sales Director Jill Moore. “My mom, Mary Kay Independent National Sales Director Emeritus Mickey Ivey, was closely connected with Mary Kay. Through their relationship, I was too.

“Mary Kay knew I had gotten out of an abusive marriage. She asked me to share my personal story. She wanted to raise awareness and educate people since The Foundation had embraced the mission to end the epidemic of domestic violence.”

Since openly sharing her story, Jill has shown consistent passion and unwavering commitment to do all she can to end domestic abuse. Her strong, active dedication also spread to her unit and National Area.

“Individually and together, our efforts to end cancers affecting women and domestic abuse are an ongoing priority for my National Area,” explains Jill. “I love representing The Foundation! I can reach people personally about The Foundation’s critical mission, which can expand how they experience Mary Kay Inc. as a Company with a heart. I find it very rewarding.

“The Foundation is a powerful connecting force. Talking about the mission establishes common ground. Connecting through that commonality deepens the relationships we have with people.”

Jill continues to touch many lives through numerous speaking engagements at domestic violence shelter and community events. In May 2017, she volunteered at the Music Against Domestic Violence fundraiser concert in Fort Worth.

That same month, Jill and her unit also voluntarily staffed a booth throughout the four-day Conference on Crimes Against Women in Dallas.

   

“We were so moved when employees of a domestic violence shelter visited our booth to tell us how a grant from The Foundation helped keep their shelter open,” shares Jill. “We could physically see what we are doing is making a difference in the lives of women and children. It became very real to us as we talked face-to-face with these shelter employees.”

Jill and the members of her unit and National Area give generously through fundraising benefiting The Foundation. For Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day and other occasions, they have donated gift bags filled with Mary Kay® products to domestic violence shelters, providing the residents with makeup they can use for job interviews.

“Domestic abuse and cancer have touched all of our lives in some way,” Jill states. “We are determined to do more than talk about it. We are committed to be the face of The Foundation to women who are hurting.”

Have you done something to help end domestic abuse?

Please tell us about it in the comment section below!

Diane Montgomery is a contributing editor for The Mary Kay Foundation℠. She has been writing for The Foundation for 13 years and loved every minute. She is passionate about supporting efforts to end cancers that affect women and domestic abuse. Contact her at: MsDianeM@aol.com.

 

Editor's note: Below is Jill Moore’s story of escaping domestic abuse that was published in 2010.

Journey to Healing, Love and Strength

Independent National Sales Director Jill Moore hailed from a solid family background, enjoyed the success of her Mary Kay business, lived in an upscale neighborhood, wore expensive suits and drove a pink Cadillac.

By all appearances, she seemed to live a charmed life. But appearances can be deceiving. Jill was also a victim of domestic violence.

Here is her story in her own words:

I’ve learned that domestic violence knows no cultural, religious or socioeconomic boundaries.

I came from a rock-solid family: educated, and emotionally and spiritually grounded. My mom was a Mary Kay Independent National Sales Director and my dad was a minister. Surprisingly, I was a victim of domestic violence during my first marriage. Nothing in my background prepared me for what I experienced.

My former husband seemed like Prince Charming while we were dating. He was a highly successful man. I didn’t find out until after we married that he was a recovering drug addict. During our first year of marriage, the abuse began, and escalated very, very slowly over time as he started using drugs again.

I was equipped to think the best of people. I hadn’t been exposed to domestic violence previously. My foundation didn’t have the experience or skills to deal with the relationship conflict and dangerous, volatile situations I experienced.

To be successful in anything you have to be committed. As a committed, solution-oriented person, I worked hard to fix things and make my relationship better.

I put my ex-husband through many counseling and treatment programs for drug addiction. I blamed his behaviors on the drugs, thinking if I could get him off drugs, he would be a great guy again.

No one knew what was really happening. I kept it all under the carpet and didn’t tell anyone for fear they would be judgmental. We lived less than two miles from my parents, and they knew nothing.

I was passionately in love with my stepson and constantly worried about our safety because of my ex-husband’s drug involvement and those influences.

I worked feverishly to keep everything afloat. Then, things escalated, and I got very ill and was hospitalized. While in treatment at the hospital, the true story of what was happening in my home began to come out for the first time.

After I recovered from my illness, I shared more about the abuse with some Mary Kay friends. My Mary Kay family then reached out to me and said ‘let’s get help.’ I believed they saved my life. The women of Mary Kay helped pull me out of this.

I filed for divorce and then found out I was pregnant. Before my divorce was final, the traumatic incidents escalated, requiring police involvement on several occasions. When our son was born, I felt devastated when my ex chose to give up his parental rights.

Sometimes, domestic violence gets worse as one person gets healthier and leaves the relationship. This can make it even harder for women to completely end the relationship. After I divorced and became involved in counseling to heal, even more violence occurred ― my ex-husband broke into my home and sexually assaulted me.

I know that the scars are deep, and I know the scars from rape and domestic violence are scars that many women carry with them.   I know these final violent acts were key to my taking a firm stand to make sure my infant son and I were protected.

Although it was extremely difficult, I pursued a case against my ex-husband. He was convicted and sent to jail. After being so emotionally battered, it can be difficult to move forward. I had to take giant steps to pursue my case.

I sought counseling, which gave me information and skills. Since I had been living with someone with an addiction, my point of reality had become skewed. When you live with unhealthy people, you become sick to cope and survive. I had learned to compromise myself and cope with the unacceptable. My sense of what was normal had changed.

I did a lot of soul searching. For many years, I was a single mom. Reaching a better place of self understanding helped me learn to make better choices in a mate. Today, I am happily married to an emotionally stable man, and I love my family life.

I believe God gives us experiences in life so we can offer hope and help others. The difficult life experiences have given me more understanding and made me a better person.

I’m passionate about The Mary Kay FoundationSM and grateful it has given me a platform to help women heal and love. We can influence women to know that healthy, stable relationships are possible for them.